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A letter to my co-worker (who will probably never read this)

To start off, let me set the topic. Our conversation about homelessness this morning. You had said something about the homelessness epidemic being such a shame, and how the fellow across the road sleeping in a doorway shouldn't be there. I agreed thinking there was compassion in your heart... But then you continued and said that "it's really their own fault". I was stunned and could only say "Really?". You elaborated by telling me of the times you've witnessed "some of them completely tweaking". Now knowing you to be one to drink and smoke-up I asked, "Someone's life is going so shitty that they're huddled sleeping on a business' porch in a freezing rain and ice storm, and you're gonna tell them they're not allowed use $20 on drugs to escape the crappiness for a few hours?" You got all insulted and straightened your back saying that you might drink and get tattoos but you "prioritise food and a roof"

2019 Garden Update

It's been a while so here's some garden updates. In September I got assigned a community garden plot that had been abandoned for 3 or 4 years. The weeds were 3 feet high and thriving. My garden neighbour said that last year she complained and they mowed it... once. I went one day with some gloves, pruning sheers, and cardboard to start the no-dig garden process. It wasn't easy. The compost bin was upside down, the land had dips where rabbits or other small critters had dug in under the snow during previous winters, and a bunch of those three foot tall weeds were some sort of mint. During the cleanup I found one lone ripe cherry tomato. I figured if it could survive this mess it would thrive with whatever I threw at it and saved it for next year. (It's currently in the freezer.) Here's how everything looked once the weeds were cut down, the compost in the bin was used to fill in the holes, the bin was reassembled right side up and filled with the chopped we


I read a post on Tumbr talking about "activity cravings" when you really want to DO something but you don't know what, and how it seems the more options you have, the worse it is. When I was a kid, we called this boredom. When we were all very young (5 kids under 10), if one of us said "Muuuuum, I'm boooored" she would look at us and say "well if you can't entertain yourself I could use help with (dishes/folding laundry/etc)". It was always whatever she was actually doing in case we needed some mom-time and didn't know how to ask. Most of the time, by the time she said "can't entertain yourself," we instantly said "nevermind" and went to find a cool rock in the back yard or whatever. One day I was having a particularly bad case of the want-to-do-somethings and decided chores were better than boredom. I went to mom and spoke the magic phrase, her reply stopped midway waiting for me to run out of the room and I repe

Growing Hope Homestead

Just started an instagram account ....... don't know if I'm going to regret that. I've been talking a lot with Wolfie about the homestead gardens/ animals/ etc and I'm very happy that we overlap but have our own interests. I'm more interested in the annuals & cultivated perennials, and he's more interested in foraging and food forests.  We also have a bunch of non food ideas of what we'd like to accomplish on the homestead and he was very amped up when I told him that Hugslut and I had been talking about the possibility of a community centre that helps the local LGBT & homeless communities, with a tool library, helping people get connected to programs that they need, and a pay-what-you-can dinner. We're all just hopeful hippies at heart.

I've come up with what I think is the ideal property listing for us.

Remember this isn't actually real....... as far as I know.  - - - 10 acres total that back onto the Bay of Fundy of which, 5 acres are wooded with some fruit and nut trees through-out as well as some sugar maple, and 2 acres are fenced pasture/hayfield. The property is hooked up to the electrical grid, but also has a solar/wind array that covered 75% of the previous owner’s usage. Phone and cable lines are connected to the main house and Fibre internet is available in this area. The spacious main house has a full unfinished basement, newer vinyl siding(2010), and a new steel roof(2017), and a well cared for wrap around porch. It has 3 bedrooms on the upper floor as well as a full bathroom. The main floor contains a large kitchen with enough room for a harvest table, plenty of counter space near the sink and stove, and all the cupboards you could dream of as well as a large pantry off the kitchen. The living room has a large south facing window and a Russian/Masonry style wo

Update with bad news

I'm surprised it's been so long, time seems to be drifting quickly. Life was chugging along nicely for me with Aikido twice a week, part-time at work and part-time housewife, slowly digging through & decluttering the backlog of our stuff.... Then, at the beginning of July, Franklin's liver became a problem and his health took a turn for the worse. We worked long & hard with the vet to try to get him back to health... but he passed away July 29th. Hugslut and I are still working hard towards our goal of a homestead to call our own before 2024, and maybe by then we'll be ready to let a new pet into our life. On a happier note, Bard has passed his first bar exam and will be a proper lawyer very soon. I'm very happy for him and wanted to share his success with you all.

First Time At Aikido

I finally got to the Aikido class. Hugslut came with me to check out a Saturday morning all levels class. She was less drawn than I was so I went to a free beginners class by myself last night. It was SO MUCH FUN! I threw myself into it determined to not be the scared newbie who doesn't even manage a summersault because they're so tense and I had a great time. The people are great, and the class size is small enough that there's enough high levels to help with all the low levels (because if you pair a newb with a newb they're both just gonna get hurt). As I was signing up, I was chatting with one of the higher levels and he was telling me "just relax and don't worry if you don't get something. We all started there and no one gets the techniques right on the first try . . .  except for Dancers, we hate dancers. I mean, we LOVE dancers, but we 'hate' dancers. They'll walk in off the street as a rank newb and watch the sensei perform a techni

Everything Is Temporary

I've been using the mantra "everything is temporary" to remind myself not to get bogged down in the minutia of organizing when there's still decluttering left to do. My plan is very simple, but very broad and therefore time consuming. I've already applied this logic to my clothes and books to be a proof of concept on easily gathered categories. The rest of our stuff isn't really sorted into categories yet and is spread across the house, So my plan is as follows: Day to day life needs to run smoothly. The decluttering has waited this long, and it can be done in the gaps. Sort everything into categories (some obvious garbage/donations can be tossed in this step) Go through each category carefully with Hugslut in order to keep only the things that make our life better.  Seeing what's left & organize our stuff in a way that allows for frequent enjoyment of the beautiful things, easy access to the commonly used things, and easy tidying/cleaning/ca

Religion and Ethics

A manager I rarely work with started "chatting" with me before I clocked in today and the conversation carried on after I started working. She was asking a lot of questions about my family and I couldn't understand why she was suddenly so interested in my life but I thought maybe she was just being friendly. Then the conversation came to my mom remarrying and then devorcing again because, in her words, god was punishing her with a bad marriage for divorcing/remarrying. My manager flat out said that her faith agrees with my mom's assessment of the situation. We talked back and forth about religion for a while and eventually I got bored with her stubborn headed & contradictory arguments so I said something along the lines of "I get that you believe, I'm just not convinced." And when she replied "I'm not here to convince you" it was like one of those slow-mo movie flashbacks. I remembered that getting someone to talk about their family

The Tidying, Has Begun.

So. This place needs decluttering. I know that I'm going to do some serious spring cleaning as soon as the weather is warm enough to open the windows for a few days. Until then, I still have plenty to do. In order to pare down to the things we actually want in our home, I've decided to start tidying. I thought it was gonna be fairly easy to start with my clothes. . .  might take a day. . . One day I had an hour before dinner and decided to tidy my sock & undies drawer. I didn't think to take a before picture til I saw the pile on the bed, so you'll just have to believe me that it wasn't a disaster, but it was very full. At that point I decided I had to post my underwear on the internet, and therefore, I needed pics. So I took a pic of the two containers and the mesh bag that had also been filled with odds & ends of the same type that had also been tossed into the pile. There were a few things I decided "don't count" because